LOL. I just knew that somehow, me saying that because of my experiences dating Korean men I find it very hard to trust them would be offensive to some people. I’m sorry that some of you think you are the protectors of Korean men’s reputations and feel the need to defend them every time someone…
Okay. Here I am. Single, on your side of the fence, as it were. I’ve been dating Korean guys for about four years now, have had some boyfriends. I’ve met some creeps and met some great guys. And since you’re allowed to state your opinion, I’m also allowed to state mine. So here we go.
Offensive? Yes. Your statement was offensive. If I said all Korean girls were just ugly bitches who were looking to date American guys to get a green card…well, I feel like that’d be offensive as well. And I hope someone would step up, not press the like button, and call me out for the really rude comment I’ve just made.
Am I the champion of all Korean guys in the world? Haha, absolutely not. Why would I be? But, when you take swipes at the guys you’ve met, blanket statement them into ‘they’re all not trustworthy’ and they’re all liars who are scum (my words) besides the ones that you’ve met who are dating you friends, then yes, I take issue. There are a few guys that you’ve met, that I’ve also talked to. I’ve recognized them from the way you’ve described them, and yes, those guys are not great. Which is why I never met them. More power to you that you decided to go on a date with them. And I’m sorry to hear it didn’t work out.
But, is it then fair to accuse the girls that found one of the numerous good guys out there and say that they don’t know what they’re talking about? You got upset when people discredited your personal experiences, yet you’ve just done the same thing.
It’s fine to have your opinion. But, when you lay it bare on the internet, it’s also fine for people to come back when they disagree. Your opinion basically discredits all of the amazing men I’ve met here, as dating partners, as friends, as random guys I’ve met in clubs that I happened to talk to or hook up to for one night. That’s not right.
I happen to love men. I love their personalities, I love their looks. I love what they can do in the bedroom and what they can do out of it. I live in Korea, so I don’t find it strange that my love of men carried over to Korean men. And I’m not saying you’re not the same way. But, the way you talk about men? You don’t seem to respect them. You write about how the point of dating is to look at a guy’s picture and judge if he’s worth meeting. If that’s the case, you think he doesn’t know that? If the guy really wasn’t using his own picture, how could you expect him to? You wouldn’t have talked to him if he wasn’t hot. That’s the whole point, according to you. What about all of the other things that he might have going for him? That doesn’t seem to matter. At least, that’s the impression I get when reading your blog. Your reasons for dates not working out (and the last one wasn’t really a date, was it? Given, it seemed he did a drive-by, maybe didn’t like what he saw, and left. Which was shit, I agree. But, not a date) are that their pictures weren’t right. Or they didn’t look hot in real life. And that’s just sad.
You say you want a man that does x, y, and z and then you go after sports trainers, or hot guys, based on their looks, and are disappointed when things don’t work out. Men all over the world want to marry girls for citizenship. Women all over the world do, too. That doesn’t mean they’re the only ones out there dating.
I get that you were making a ‘joke.’ The problem is, you make these jokes often, and they’re not that funny. They’re rude. And disrespectful. Are the men that your friends are dating, just dating them for a passport? I think they’d really not find that funny. Have you made that joke to them in person? What has been the reaction? How about your girlfriends? Did they like it?
It’s sad to see how many likes you got on this comment. Sure, I’m guessing this is just going to make me the look like the bad guy, stomping all over everyone’s fun. Calling people out for blanket statements and such. But, it’s true. Comments about how all Kboys are vampires (not you) are hilarious, I guess. Maybe I just don’t get it. Because, as I’ve said in the past, I find them to be real men. With real issues. With real goals. Not playthings to say mean things about whenever I want.
If you had said, ‘Jeez, I’ve been on a bad roll lately. The guys all suck because I’m looking for someone to actually be their picture in real life, and not put up the best/fake version of themselves and how dare these specific men lie about what they look like,’ then I wouldn’t have reblogged.
But time and time again, girls on Tumblr say things, things that they would hate being said about themselves, and then when called on it, they say it was a joke. Or their opinion. Or not what they meant to say, and it’s just ridiculous.
You want a man to want you, and who doesn’t. But when they don’t, that doesn’t mean ALL Korean men (besides those select few you’ve gotten to know because your friends are with them) are shit.
I’d love to see the stats you found where it said that Korean men cheat on their partners more. Comments like that are just stereotypes. And terrible ones at that. It’d be like saying American girls are a lot sluttier than Korean girls. And we all know how I feel about the slut situation.
If you don’t speak Korean, and that’s what’s bothering you, that’s not their problem. It’s yours. It’s your choice to date these men. And it’s your choice to choose to meet the men you do. But, you’re not looking to meet a potential life partner. You don’t even seem to be looking to meet a real guy who may or may not have the best looks. You seem to be looking for a guy who would wear couple clothes with you and take you ice skating. You’d rather go around buying GD stickers or whatnot. And that’s fine. Everyone knows I love my Kpop, too. But, you’re not looking to meet a good guy because he’s a good guy. You seem to be looking to meet someone because you want a boyfriend. Any boyfriend.
“Thanks! However I just “found” one… the hard part is getting them to like you and want to marry you and buy you blood diamonds and make you change your name to assert their ownership and all that ^—-^”
I mean, that? Why WOULD a guy want to date you if that’s what you were looking for? And yes, I realize that was probably a ‘joke,’ too. I guess I just didn’t get that one, either. Right?