January 2010
114 posts
Ask yourself this.
Recently, I’ve gotten a lot of congrats that I’m in a relationship. From readers, to friends, to coworkers and such. It’s all been very nice. Most of them, I am fairly sure, are just congratulating me because they are happy for me. But some of them and you, Readers, have an undercurrent, a slightly negative construct pertaining to my love life that I feel the need to address.
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"You are the most manipulative girl I know."
Compromise. I taught KFF this word last night. Why?
Well, I recently discovered that he has the biggest forehead in the world. And, when he pulls his hair back, he’s not nearly as cute as he is when it’s over his gigantic, mammoth head. So, he informs me that he wants to get a haircut. I rather love his Jaejoong hair, and don’t want him to change it at all. I begged him not to...
Queen-size bed.
I bought one.
A few days ago. I’m a girl that needs space. In bed. Even if I’m alone. I really hate twin beds.
I bought it, and KFF and I set it up together, then broke it in. Happy to say it makes a lot less noise than the other bed. But it’s a lot harder. Haha. But, I love it.
My first bed! Yeah!
Sleepless nights.
Again.
He likes to reach over, and tweak my chest. Yes. When I’m sleeping.
Maybe he’s just a light sleeper, but it seems like he’s always up throughout the night. He also likes to take up space. I figured with the queen size we’d have loads of room. Yet, last night, I found myself up against the wall again with him right behind me. I switched to the outside, and ten...
Spaghetti Dinner Test.
Yes. I have one. Whatever.
Everytime I get with a new guy, that is, once we confirm our ‘bf/gf’ status, I make him dinner. Always the same dinner. Homemade spaghetti sauce, garlic bread, spaghetti and the like. I always like to see how they react to it, and what they think. Today, I was eating lunch in the school cafeteria. We were eating spaghetti, and I just kept thinking that mine...
Facebook. I went there.
I am now ‘in a relationship.’
Haha.
SUCK IT. Don’t laugh at me.
Round one. FIGHT!
Basically, KFF likes to manhandle me. What do I mean?
Well, I know it’s not uncommon, but Korean couples tend to (generalization!) hit each other, or shove each other, or whatever. I don’t think it’s as common with American couples, and I know he doesn’t mean it in a bad way. Sometimes he pushes against me if we’re walking. Or if he gets excited and starts cracking...
Loads of emails and other things.
I’m really sorry for the lack of updates. Sometimes life gets in the way of blogging, and the workload I’m dealing with is making me exhausted. I’ve also been trying to handle this fraud business, and KFF and I keep having tiffs/arguments because of one reason or another (we had an all-out fight last night). It seems so ridiculous to have a fight after only a week so I’m...
Where have I been?!
This seems to be the question of the day. The answer is, of course, right here. But the computer and TV have been turned off so often, that I forget it’s here.
Yesterday, KFF and I bought him a toothbrush to keep at my place. A TOOTHBRUSH. It’s been a week, and he now has a toothbrush in my sink cup. I also have started to notice that other things have been moved around or...
Cultural sexativity.
lostmymindinseoul:
hotyellowfellows:
hookingupinhanguk:
Yeah. Being with Korean guys has made me realize how much we are socially trained to think certain things are sexy.
Same. One time with Eager, I told him I wanted him to — how to say this politely in the cold light of day — complete in my mouth. In the heat of the moment, I totally thought that was a sexy thing to say/do, and he...
1/2 Sloppy seconds.
hotyellowfellows:
Remember how we talked about overlap among us Kboy bloggers? It doesn’t happen so much in real life — but it happens BIG TIME in the online world. That’s one problem with online dating.
Dating in Korea’s Adjusshi sent me a message, but I didn’t reply because I knew it was him, haha.
I’ve been talking to this guy on MSN for about an hour now, and we just got around to talking...
Long Love Condoms (in more ways than one.)
We start this story at the beginning of the night. We had already fooled around once, and he knew that if we were going to have sex, he had to go get condoms. I told him that he should, under no circumstances, get the Long Love kind (given my LAST experience with them and my mouth going numb.) He agreed, and said he’d be back. 10minutes later he comes back with a strawberry smelling/flavored...
When someone tells you to keep a secret...
…don’t you sometimes go ‘oh, ok’ but know you never will? This happened last night. And it has to do with our sex, and really, it’s too hilarious to keep to myself. I feel bad now, knowing that if he ever were to find the blog he might kill me, BUT I promised myself that I’d blog about everything. And that includes this.
I have to get ready for work now. So...
Scar revealed. (I really wanted to title this...
Guess it’s over with. Apparently when you hang out with someone for so long in one day, you’re able to talk about anything. We had a long talk about his scar. He actually got undressed with the lights and tv on. He gave me my glasses back and showed me the scar. He showed me how one leg is shorter than the other and he had me feel his lower legs to see how the one bone was broken and...
Nighttime day trip.
So, we got back to my place. I was surprised, I figured I’d have been so annoyed with him throughout the day (that’s a long time to spend with someone back-to-back that you don’t know very well) and that I wouldn’t want him in my house. But, no. He came in and I told him that I was still really tired so we should take a nap for an hour then decide what to eat. Well, one...
Day trip.
We went to 월미도. Or Wolmi-Do. It’s an ‘island’ off Incheon and was quite fun. We left my house around 11:30. We drove to a coffee shop and shared a wrap in his car, then we drove to the location. It probably took us about an hour and a half to get there? We had a good time the entire way. When we arrived, I felt bad. He loves seafood, but I don’t eat it. I told him to eat it...
Tomorrow's day trip.
We are starting at my place at 10:30am for brunch. (If I have time in the morning, I will go out and get eggs and toast to make him breakfast American style, but if not we’ll just eat noodles.) Then, we’ll head outside of Seoul for the day. We’ll be back around 7pm. I’m excited.
*Update: I explained to my students what Americans eat on days like we’ve been having in...
Sex woes. (Not all is great in Couple Land.)
We had the ‘no condom’ chat AGAIN. AGAIN. Then he tried to stick it in when I was in the heat of the moment. Really, nothing kills a sex buzz like a guy that doesn’t want to use a condom. I get it, I really do. I can feel the difference too, and I don’t like it. In fact, I hate condoms. But, and this is the part that’s not changing, they’re non-negotiable for...
Sunday day trip.
I was supposed to do an interview with a fellow Kblogger but I guess our signals got crossed, or we just missed each other. I’m assuming the interview is cancelled until next weekend or when she’s next available. So, when KFF asked me if I was free tonight, for tomorrow, I said ok.
He’s got the day off work (had to work tonight, Saturday, until 10pm, and he left my house at 9am...
Weekend trip over 설날. (Can we still bring...
So, he just called me. He asked me again to go on the trip so I said yes. He’s going to plan everything and drive. (Sadly, no KTX this time. Maybe next time.) I’m really excited about this. Looks like the trip will happen over *설날. (Feb. 14-16, is when I think we’ll be gone.) He’s got family obligations the first day and a half. This is actually a good thing. I think that...
...down on Skid Row....downtown, where the...
Yes. KFF, of his own accord, went down. On me. For such a length of time, it is only proper to call it oral sex. It was good. I didn’t finish. Mostly because I think I was so surprised by the entire thing, I kept thinking, ‘wow. this is happening. to me. now.’ And it was hindering my ability to get into it beyond just feeling good. Haha.
I asked him afterwards if he’d...
Too soon for a trip?
KFF wants to take a trip with me in March, provided we’re both free. For some reason I view the first time you travel with someone as another step in the relationship. Only a few days in, I wonder if it’s a good idea. I think it’s strange that we’ve been talking for 5months, so it feels like we’ve known each other, but really…we’ve only been dating for...
Lack of Update. Sorry.
I’ve become a victim of fraud. *sigh* Nothing too serious, at all, but I’ve basically been having phone sex with my bank all day and night due to this issue and haven’t even been able to read the things on my Tumblr dash much less update about my life.
Suffice to say, when I called to figure out why my card had been turned off, I started crying when they told me. Cause you...
To: Daisy
Question/Comment:: how do you deal with really shy kboys? i’ve gone out with this guy a few times so far but i feel like we’re not going anywhere any time soon (we’ve only held hands once!). i know he likes me because he wants to see me and he always sends me really cute and sweet text messages but…
Daisy, I deal with really shy Kboys like I deal with all shy guys. I...
To: Jen
Question/Comment:: Any korean-americans under your radar?:-D That would be fun.. I believe they have a different style of dating than the native koreans,what do you think?
There are two Korean Americans ‘under my radar.’ One is a guy I worked with for a short time that left and is now back and the other is someone I only know from the internet. Both are fairly hot men and charming,...
I seem to have an issue.
Tonight at dinner, I was talking about KFF. I kept referring to him as ‘the guy’ or ‘this guy’ or whatever. People kept asking me, ‘what guy’ and I felt very strange saying ‘Oh. My boyfriend, KFF.’ This was often followed by an awkward laugh. Maybe because it’s only been a day or maybe it’s because I always have trouble referring to...
To: Ana
Question/Comment:: Are you going to keep this Tumblr? I just discovered it and I want to read through everything.
Ana, it’s not going anywhere. Boyfriend or not, relationship or not, dry spell or not…it’s here. Haha. I’m not sure why you’d want to read ‘through everything’ but you are more than welcome of course. Haha. The only way this place is going...
Formspring Q&A
I’m a bit behind in these, and plan to catch up tonight. I have about ten to get through, so if you’ve sent me something in the last few days, I’m sorry about being so lax. I want to say it won’t happen again, but I know it will. So….yeah. Sorry. Haha.
(And if you want to send me a question/are wondering how people are able to, you can just click that button on the...
High school all over again. 'Will you go out with...
KFF: Ah Grace. I want to ask you~how about you think me? And who is me to you? I wish your boyfriend...
Me: I want too. But I am worry because now you start so busy work. Now I will never see you for one month...but I really like you. It's very hard.
KFF: Hmm don't worry. If you want meet I can make time maybe 10pm after. I think that time is late so you tired and sleepy^^ Just I worry this. Other thing don't worry. I'm okay.
Me: Ok! I want it!^^ Now my boyfriend?? Haha. I am happy.^^'
KFF: Haha. >_< You are my girlfriend?!! ㅋㅋㅋ O my god this is real??? Me too so happy and I'm not believe in god but this time = thanks giving god cuz I meet you. It is happy accident. ^___^*
[And yes, everyone was making fun of my Konglish at work. But whatevs, it's how we communicate. It's hella better than when I first found him on KFF five months ago.]
All my single ladies? Put yo hands up.
I am, happy to say, no longer able to do so. Haha. Oh yes, you read that correctly.
I want to start this off by saying this is a blog about my dating in Korea. And while I know ya’ll enjoy it more when I’m single and dating, part of dating is having a boyfriend and exploring that side. And, I really can’t stay single just for the sake of having funny stories to blog about. Last...
So this is what happens when you date a few guys...
I was sort of in a conundrum today. LG texted me that he was back. He said his business trip sucked and that he was glad to be back. We texted back and forth a little bit, but at the same time I was texting with KFF.
When I walked into work this morning, all the Kgirls wanted to know what I had done this weekend, because I was smiling so much. KFF told me the same. ‘Really same to me. It...
So, if he's so perfect, why doesn't he have a...
I’ve been asking myself this for a bit. I believe people always have some sort of flaw. And that it just takes a bit to find it. Well, given he’s pretty much amazing, I was waiting for the other shoe to drop eventually. I think it did tonight, but not in the way I’d thought it would.
He had mentioned before that when he was a kid he got into a terrible car accident. He spent a...
White Day....my first with a guy??
After the movie, we were sitting on the bed watching tv. A Japanese program about candy came on and I told him how while I don’t like chocolate or other things, I LOVE hard candy. I told him how much I really love the plum flavored candy they sell here.
He told me that for White Day he’d give me some. I was excited, basically because White Day was mentioned, but then he said...
So I played dead.
Before I write a blog, I sometimes craft how I want to word things in my head. It was about an hour before the date ended, and I was going to compare it to a date had in high school. Nothing that I couldn’t or wouldn’t do in front of my parents. That quickly changed, but it started that way.
He arrived with not just kimchijjigae, but also rice and other hidden surprises in his bag of...
So...Tin Pan. Lovely, lovely Tin Pan.
We get a sorta decent spot out of the flow of traffic, and start dancing. A guy beside me (first guy of the night actually) was looking pretty hot with his short cut hair and giant lips. Haha. At one point K said, and I quote: ‘Two points for those lips. I want them all over my body. All over. My body.’ Haha. I then turned to him and said, she thinks you’re cute.
He was standing...
Kboy meet up.
We ended up going to a lot of places. Greek for dinner, then Bedlam, then the Loft, then Gold Bar (thanks, Ramen for taking me there once so I knew it was a good place to go), then Tin Pan 2.
Bedlam was fun. We did a bunch of shots, and I got to see my fave bartender. He keeps making his style more and more edgy so now he’s rocking this Kim Hyun Joong look with crimped hair flipped with a...
KFF first.
Last night when I was out with the ladies, I was texting him constantly. Sorry, girls. Bad habit. But, basically, he asked me out for dinner tonight. So, in about two hours he’s coming over to cook dinner for me and to teach me to play Go Stop. Haha. I’m pretty sure he’s gonna make kimchijjigae (awesome) but I don’t care what it is I’m starving. Seriously. I...
Alright. Enough ga-ga KFF posts.
My 21 year old birthday hook up just logged onto MSN. I will take this as a sign to go get ready for tonight and see if I can find someone equally hot to make-out with on the dance floor. It’s my first night clubbing back in Seoul since I left. I have to take a shower, shave/NAIR, blow-dry, straighten, make-up and all that other stuff girls do that guys have no idea about.
Here is what I...
KFF is making my day a million times over.
He texted me today to profusely apologize for keeping me up late last night and making me tired. He said that he was extremely sorry and if I would give him another chance he really wanted to see me again. I mean, come on. How can you apologize for a midnight drive around Seoul at two of the most wonderful date locations known to man? I can’t really comprehend. I told him it wasn’t...
Just got back from my midnight date with KFF.
He picked me up. When I called to come over I sorta thought it was a ruse and that I should prep my house anyway in case he did the ‘might as well stay here’ routine. But no. He called me to come down and off we went. At 1:30am to Namsam Tower. It was closed, but we parked the car and walked around for about 30minutes in the park/pedestrian area. There was still a nice view, but it...
Holy crap, KFF. Stop being...such a kdrama worthy...
[Back history: last night we talked about Boys Over Flowers and how Jun Pyo got locked on Namsan Tower with Jan Di because they were in a cable car overnight. I find it highly romantic. He finds it both implausible and ridiculous.]
KFF: Now watching movie? Or finished? I’m very bored. TT TT please play with me^^;
Me: Haha. Ah no movie. We changed the plan so now home. Haha. I am bored too....
Adjusshi.
After texting and calling twice I finally got him on the phone. He said it was just missed signals, but didn’t seem committed to meeting me or anything. He said he wanted to talk on MSN about his feelings and about how he was an ass and not a nice guy that night. I dunno. I just want things to go back to the way they were. He thanked me for calling and seemed happy to hear from me but said...
LG sent me a text last night.
Im in Daejeon for business trip now, Im gonna go back to Seoul on Sunday!! seeusoon~
Haha. He ran out of characters. Anyway, I’m still biding my time until after January 22nd so I can see what sort of guy he is when he’s not uber busy. Bah. This is not ideal, but I hope that in February he becomes like the guy I think he is. If he is still a super workaholic at that point, I think...
Ugh. Should NOT have drank that much last night.
I’m not hungover hungover, but I am feeling a little gross. My stomach is rolling but other than that I feel fine and just really sleepy. I can’t believe I drank that much last night. I think it’s because I usually stop when I start to feel drunk (if I’m on a date) but I wasn’t really thinking about it because I was having such a good time. I know he was swearing up...