January 2012
8 posts
Off-topic: Drama update.
Since Lee Sun Gyun has been woefully absent in the drama world since Pasta, I have had to base my drama decisions on other things. Like, amazing story lines and, ahem, other actors that I enjoy watching.
Thus, I’m watching my first Saeguk. It’s rather amazing and I’m sad I haven’t gotten into them before. The storyline of this one really caught my eye, and when I found...
Tin Pan called.
I missed it.
He called again about 20 minutes later. The entire call lasted 9minutes. He asked me what I was doing. I told him I was heading home. He told me that he was running with his dog. He asked me what I was doing again. I told him again. This is when I started smiling.
Then he said that yesterday he had gone to Gangnam to see me. Which, you know, confused me. Until I realized he had...
Tin Pan's style.
[After an hour of not talking.]
Him: I am see you Friday?
Him: Date. You okay??
Me: Haha. Do you have a girlfriend?
Him: You. Me. Date?
Me: I mean. Do you have a girlfriend?
[silence. I realize he doesn't understand what I'm asking. I try again.]
Me: Are you single?
Him: Yes. You?
Me: Yes. Okay. Let's meet Friday.^^
Him: Ok~~
Me: I'm excited.
Him: I will go to Gangnam pm 7:30.
Me: Ah. I finish work at 7:30. How about 8:15? Or 8:30?
Him: Okay. Good. 8:30.
Me: Great.
Him: Food and movie.
Me: Sounds wonderful.
Him: Goodnight!
[Then he left. To go to bed. Short, direct, and funny. I mean, what else do you say to that, but yes?]
Tin Pan and I have a date.
Trying not to get my hopes up. Because I’ve had a few bad run-ins with dates being set but then cancelled at the last minute. But, I can’t help it. Even if I don’t remember what he looks like, I’m looking forward to meeting him. He makes me laugh. And I’m definitely a firm believer in my mom’s ‘be with someone that makes you laugh’ rule of thumb. He...
The Aussie update.
Falling into serious like with someone is always a nice feeling. It makes you all happy and giddy when you see them and get to know them.
I am falling into like with the Aussie.
At this point, I couldn’t say if I like him for a relationship or just a casual hookup. i think I’d be happy with either. He treats his female friends really well, and he also takes care of his male friends....
Protein Powder? More like Baby Powder.
So that date that was supposed to happen? It never did.
Let me explain.
At INP’s house, he and I were texting back and forth last week. It was the day before our date, and I was rather excited to go on a proper date for the first time in a long time.
I had planned my outfit, and was ready to head back to Seoul and see what was what with the guy. I wasn’t especially enamored with...
Drummer finis.
No idea. Really no idea what happened. I’m still a little grumpy about it to be honest, but that’s how these things go.
To answer someone’s question that asked me in the comments, no, we weren’t dating. We met once in September, and then that was it. We did, however, talk for six months every day. He had asked me at the end of November to wait for him for one more month...
1st Tin Pan.
aka Blast from the Past.
I’ve met a guy. Rather, I’ve re-met a guy. I have no idea what he looks like. Or why we never spoke again after that night. I do know he’s a watch designer and 31. I do know that we met in late 2008 or 2009. I know that we haven’t spoken or texted since that time. I know he was the first guy I met at Tin Pan, because that’s what he’s in...
December 2011
6 posts
Date on Saturday. It's been a long time.
Back to my roots, I guess.
He seems nice enough. Makes me laugh. Makes INP laugh. We met on my phone and while he’s not at all my normal type for guys, he’s doing something right.
He’s proactive. Within two nights of chatting he’s asked me out on a date. INP gave him her seal of approval when, once I agreed, he asked me what time I’d like to meet. He followed that...
One of the reasons I want to date the drummer so...
INP and I want to watch him and Busan meet for the first time.
I think it’ll be hilarious. We plan on introducing them, and then excusing ourselves to the other side of the bar, so we’re just close enough to hear them but not close enough to interrupt.
We have problems.
In other news, he’s supposed to give me a Christmas gift* soon. Odds of this happening before Christmas?...
Conversation like this are some of the biggest...
We were supposed to have a date maybe this week. I sorta forgot about. I’m planning the school’s Christmas party for the kids, so I hadn’t messaged him all week. He told me that he couldn’t meet this weekend, so when Thursday rolled around and I realized I hadn’t texted and he hadn’t called, I figured it was off.
Seems the boy took himself off to Busan to train...
MIA
So. My cat died. And it sucks. And life sucks. But, the Drummer has been supportive because he has three cats. And, you know, he is just a nice guy. He didn’t try to do that thing where guys try to cheer you up when they don’t know what to say. He handled it perfectly. Anyway that is why I haven’t written lately. Because I still miss my cat.
The Aussie.
There is one man reading this right now, that is probably smiling to himself. To him I say: this post has nothing to do with you. Haha. But, I do owe you thanks, because I def. impressed some men with my infinite cricket knowledge, and that’s entirely to do to you. (That was also a total lie. I never read that packet you sent me. But they did laugh at my cricket = baseball + long jump...
Bartender, the recap.
I don’t know how far into things I explained.
One night, I got drunk, and I asked out Bartender on a date. He said yes. He seemed rather excited about it. This was in October. He said he was busy this month, but that he was free early the next. I said ok.
His birthday came and went.
He told me, one Friday, that the next Wednesday we could have our date. I was rather stoked. He was...
November 2011
13 posts
It's winter again.
And what does that mean?
The men have come out of hiding to see how I’m doing this winter.
So far, we have:
-Patbingsu’s sister checking in.
-Pineapple Man calling me. I didn’t answer.
-KFF just realized I was on KakaoTalk. Wanted to see if I’d eaten lunch. You know, for the first time since January 31st.
Fucking winter.
VVIP. We have to go, go.
Just kidding.
But I do have a new friend that I adore. She’s great because she can match me in drinking, and is always up for a good time. INP knows, we sometimes get into trouble because neither one of us will say no if the other says, “Hey. How about we pop a bottle of champagne now.” Which is ridiculous. Though fun. Ain’t no party like a champagne party. But, seriously,...
Rinse and repeat.
Same PC Bang. Same seat. Even more empty than before.
This time, an adjusshi just sat next to me. >.<
I’m…at a loss for words. That’s all.
What chatting with the Drummer is like.
Me: Indian food tonight. Mmm...
Drummer: wow
Me: Delicious. What did you eat?
Drummer: I ate butter.
Me: ...what???
Drummer: Butter and donut.
Me: You mean a bagel?
Drummer: No no. Donut. Just donut. Hahaha. Not bagel. My coworker give me a donut. And I find butter in my office.
Me: Haha. Was it good?
Drummer: No no. That's bad fusion.
Me: Haha. I know. We don't eat butter with donuts.
Drummer: Yup. That make me crazy.
Me: Is that all you had for dinner?
Drummer: Yes. And I ate chicken.
Stop! Drummer time.
Haven’t been talking about the Drummer lately. To be honest, I thought things were progressing with Bartender, so I cooled things off. I would really only reply when Drummer messaged me. However, things with the Bartender hit a sour note (need to explain more) and I was pissed that I let things go with the Drummer when I’d originally met him first.
So, we’ve been talking again....
PC Bang woes.
In my PC Bang, it’s rarely ever crowded. Unless it’s a Friday night, and the business men are appearing to watch their dramas, it’s pretty empty. I’ve been coming here for months and what happened tonight never happens.
I was sitting in an empty row, with an empty row behind me. My bag and purse were on the chair next to me. No one was going to bother me. I was watching a...
To: The Tumblr Community
For those of the readers NOT following the weight/community/Tumblr blog rotation, please note that this is entirely off-topic and probably not worth your time. However, if you’d still like to read it, please go ahead. To everyone else that is? Absolutely click to read more.
Fine.
That’s where I’ll start.
I did not, at any point in this little game, say anything. I have been...
Millennium Pepero Day.
I’m fairly sure by this time tomorrow I’ll be drunk on Raspberry Vodka and Strawberry Pepero sticks. A coworker and I might have bought out E-Mart on the giant boxes. I am fully convinced that Pepero Day is not a commercial holiday. It’s a teacher’s holiday. Created to gouge the wallets of teachers in Korea everywhere as we strive to provide for our students. As it is, I...
Flower boys and KakaoTalk.
I recently changed my phone to all things Jung Il-Woo. Because I’m a badass like that. Also, I’m watching Flower Boy Ramyeun Shop like it’s my job. I’ve changed my wallpaper. I’ve changed my KakaoTalk skin. I’ve changed my actual KakaoTalk picture.
The Bartender is not amused. Especially not when I’ve got the other girls in the bar googling shirtless...
Bartender's Birthday present.
Bartender told me last month that his birthday was this week. I was trying to find a gift that was cute, but not too weird. I mean, we’re not dating, and I didn’t want to buy him anything too expensive. I also didn’t want to get him anything really cheap. I wanted something memorable, and I came up with the perfect gift.
See, Bartender and I have a little joke between us. Most...
Sick Day
First sick day in over 2.5years. Waiting until two to go to the doctor’s office.
My doctor works in a plastic surgeon’s office, so I always roll in looking awful and gross, while the women waiting are beautiful, stylish, and relaxing on the purple love seats sipping tea like bosses. Such is my life. But hey, if anyone wants a nose job, I know a great place for you. They have foreign...
October 2011
25 posts
Still getting over Halloween.
Note to future self: Stop drinking Smirnoff Apple. It always leads to trouble.
Another note: Bartender looks amazing in a suit. And hanbok. One of these things is not like the other. Haha.
Halloween: Just sayin...
If you see a Korean guy on the street with a baby face tonight…it’s prolly me in my Halloween costume. Sorry, no motel for you.^^
Kevin, an update.
I thought about you, Kevin. Friday night, as I sat in my bar.
I was definitely closer to the drunk side of the scale than the sober side. I was having a great time. I was at that place where I am fully aware of what I’m doing, but still want to do it, because I can and don’t feel nervous.
Did I ask Bartender to be my boyfriend? Haha. Don’t be ridiculous.
I did, however, text...
Off-topic: Glee s3ep3
Ah-mazing.
Absolutely.
Harry Shum in TWO songs.
SINGING. And buff.
Dreamgirls.
Fucking Dreamgirls.
One of the best songs in the musical.
Mercedes, you get all the good songs.
Loving the whole Mike Chang focus. Great to see Asians and Asian parents as the lead story in a hit show storyline. This should happen more often.
Glee, way to step it up. Standing ovation, and I’m only...
To: Kevin
Question/Comment: Hi. I’ve been reading your blog and I wanted to ask you about this, which you wrote in reply to an ‘anon’ question:
If a guy wants to make a claim, I will make a choice.
Given how active you are (and I don’t mean that pejoratively, just that you seem like a confident woman) I wanted clarification. Does this mean you won’t ask a guy to be your...
To: anon
Question/Comment: Do you think you will ever be able to concentrate on only one guy? To love only one guy?
At times I feel really sorry for the guys, for example the Bartender and the Drummer. To me it looks like they both think they have chances with you, and they do right? But it’s not like you can date them both right? So you’d have to decide eventually and I was wondering if you...
Some Bartender love.
So, I ended up at our bar both Friday and Saturday night. Saturday night wasn’t my fault. I was supposed to be at a goodbye party, but ended up having to go get my card back because it was given away, accidentally, Friday night.
A brief recap, if I may.
1. Saturday night, the Bartender was just hot. He was hot because a fight broke out. A huge fight of seven against three and it went on...
Cards and kisses.
What happens when an absentminded bartender gives your credit card to another patron and only realizes at 4am? Mayhem. That’s what. >.<
In other news, my Bartender kissed me on the cheek twice last night. Progress. We are making it.
On being a dating blogger:
This post has been a long time coming. So, let’s go back two years ago.
The blogging world was full of three types of K-bloggers: The men, the teachers, and the reviewers.
The men are still out in bounds. The teachers as well. And the reviewers are still around, of course. I don’t follow a lot of the blogs because those things didn’t necessarily interest me. I’m not...
To: Kate
Question/Comment: You may have heard of this by now, but if not, you should read “The Ethical Slut”. Great book and I think it might apply to you.
A book summary: The book discusses consensual non-monogamy as a lifestyle, and provides practical guidance on how such long-term relationships work and are put into practice. The authors define the term slut as “a person of any gender...
To: Lisa
Question/Comment: What happened? Did he lose you? Girl, don’t leave us hanging! lol
I guess that was a little ambiguous. No, he hasn’t lost me yet. I’m afraid he’s stuck with me for a little while longer. (He’s been out of Seoul for a month. This is the conversation we just ended.)
Me: So, when do you come back to Seoul?
Drummer: Well next week.
Me: Excited? Want...
Bartender, a teaser.
He got a little jealous. Actually, he gets a little jealous a lot. But, this time, the female bartender asked me for my phone number. I gave it to her, and we’ve been texting back and forth. He wasn’t happy because she speaks better English than him, and he struggles to write me messages. So we don’t talk much. She suggested he start texting me in Korean. He promised to do so.
...
“You must know I don’t wanna lose you.”
– Drummer boy.
Yeah. So that happened.
"I AM NOT A VIRGIN!"
This is the quote to sum up the night.
Shouted by Bartender after a whole slew of other things were said because his boss got drunk and started harrassing me for liking my bartender. Then the other female bartender jumped in to say I should ignore the boss. That my bartender is a nice guy. But, she thinks he’s fucking virgin.
Only, it’s after closing. Lights are on. Music is off. And the bar...
As soon as WHAT, Drummer?
The Drummer, as will soon be evident, has a way with words. Or not. As the case may be.
__________
Drummer: What kind gift do you like??
Me: Are you gonna give me a gift?
Drummer: Sure.
Me: How about another date?
Drummer: Well….how about next week??
Me: If you don’t want to, it’s okay. I was just teasing you.
Drummer: Ah..
Me: But if you want to, I do too. It’s...
The Drummer, after the date.
He’s been, well. Extremely sweet. He’s charming, to say the least. But, where before, I used to feel like it was all an act, now I don’t think so. He’s nervous. We talked about our exes, a little, and I’m not going to share that here, but four years ago was his last relationship. And it was pretty shit, in my opinion, how it all went down, though he seemed to laugh it...
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Two things that happened on the date.
1. He mentioned that his bandmates wanted to meet me. Which was surprising, to say the least. I mean, I always tell my girls about guys I’m thinking about seeing before we meet but I never thought he’d tell his band. And he got really nervous and said that I shouldn’t meet them because they speak better English than him. And I’m fairly sure he’s worried I’ll go...
Nervous and sweating Part 2.
All I can say about the coffee part of the date is that time passed extremely quickly.
In a rather hilarious moment, his friend called him. I guess he’d told the friend about our date, so the friend called to ask how the English was going. Apparently, said friend got his degree in the US and is pretty fluent in English. And he’d called just to rub it in. I laughed at that. What a...
Nervous and sweating.
This is entirely long overdue. So overdue, I am not at home eating my Flaming Hot Cheetos but am here, in a PC Bang, sipping my cafe mocha from Dunkin Donuts because I cannot resist trying to win prize #2 in the Halloween promotion. (I also love how when the Cheetos hit the Black Market here, I heard about it from about ten different sources on Facebook. Now, I didn’t WANT FHC before those...